The year is ending. A time when a lot of us look in a rear-view mirror to take stock of our lives. I say it’s time to look at our lives in a cheer-view mirror.
The memories can be sugar and spice or a bitter pill to swallow. Either way I think it’s wise to view our past with acceptance and understanding instead of regret.
Though I appear to be in my thirties or early forties I’m on the cusp of 56. Are you readers younger? Or are some of you older like I am?
The end of the year finds me thinking of the time I was a disc jockey on FM radio in the 1980s.
As I examine my life I take inspiration from Eric Daman the costume designer for Gossip Girl.
In his book You Know You Want It Daman says that we can use elements of our personal history to create our outfits today.
So too I think we can mine this history to uncover facets of our early life that we want to reclaim post 50.
To ask: “What do I want to keep in my life? What do I want to get rid of?”
You can make a comeback at any age. I’m thinking of my younger self with awe and reverence for how I broke the rules.
No–I didn’t conform when I was 22. I played alternative music on the radio. I subverted traditional beauty by using dramatic makeup on my face. I dressed in Avant Garde clothes.
This points to the reality that I don’t want to fade into the woodwork–to be rendered invisible–as I get older.
As a Generation X girl I want to make a statement once again.
Today I swipe on sassy rhubarb lipstick as a way to be bold.
I’m screwing up the courage to call the guy I’m interested in.
A fortune cookie I cracked open years ago proclaimed: Fate loves the fearless.