How to Date Your Wardrobe is a gift book hardcover packed with ideas and insight.
Page 79 sums up author Heather Newberger’s ethic:
“Instead of wasting your time wishing you were a different person, it’s important for all of us to let go of who we think we should be–so that we may enjoy the individuals we already are.”
This sentence has haunted me as it gets at what I’ve been reckoning with in my life. As hard as it can be to act true to ourselves in a society where you’ve expected to conform, I say being who you are is the only way to succeed in life.
The new electric purple lipstick I bought tells it like I am: The shade is called Unconventional Babe.
As sixty beckons for a lot of us it’s the time to do things differently. I recommend trying out a new haircut or taking up a hobby like cooking or starting to exercise.
It’s the perfect time to date your wardrobe and “revive, revitalize, and reinvigorate your style” like Heather Newberger advocates.
Simply creating new outfits has improved my outlook and given me incomparable joy.
Forget following fashion trends. If you don’t feel comfortable in what you’re wearing you won’t feel good or look good either.
I bought this book and refer to it often.
It’s my contention that when things aren’t going right in your life doing what comes easy to you that you like doing will save you from sinking into despair.
In one instant I changed my thinking. Talking about clothes and fashion isn’t frivolous when doing so can lift up others.
Men are not given grief for talking about and following sports.
Why should women be tsk-tsked for talking about dressing up and enjoying clothes?
I tell you it was liberating to get rid of the donation bags.
When you finally own only what you love to wear it makes getting dressed easier.
Seeing those beauties in my closet puts a smile on my face.
Read How to Date Your Wardrobe. Doing so you just might realize that changing your view of yourself can be as simple as changing what you wear.
Before raving about the guide I’ll bring up one glaring issue.
Author Tori Dunlap talks about ESG investing–Environmentally and Socially Responsible Investment Funds.
The Republicans in the U.S. government enacted a law to make ESG investing illegal.
In Effect you cannot decide for yourself what companies to invest your hard-earned money in.
These kinds of “Social Choice” funds do not invest money in fossil fuel companies, gun manufacturer, or the weapons industry among other businesses like these.
It would’ve become illegal to invest in companies that put people and the planet before the greed that creates deplorable conditions for workers everywhere.
LL Cool Joe–President Joe Biden–did one thing right. He vetoed the act that made ESG Investing illegal.
So as of today we can invest our money where we’d like if we so choose to invest our money in the stock market.
Should a Republican become president we can kiss this free choice goodbye.
Other than this reality that I was compelled to point out Tori Dunlap’s book should be required reading for those of us–even clueless guys–who need this kind of financial help.
Some of us love balancing our accounts and are aware of exactly what our account balances are on any given day. Not everyone needs to read The Financial Feminist.
Either way I recommend this book to everyone.
The difference is Tori Dunlap’s tone of voice is warm and empathetic. Unlike other personal finance authors she asks you not only to record one month’s worth of purchases. Dunlap tells you to write down why you bought the items and how you felt when you paid for them.
The second part that I liked was the chapter where you create financial goals with a mission and timeline that you want to achieve and how to fund this objective.
After that I stopped reading the book and skimmed only the interviews she featured with other women.
One woman was African American and stated point-blank that if she didn’t budget enough money for grooming her credibility would be trashed interacting with employers.
In one other finance book I read and can recommend the author claimed you didn’t need to adhere to a budget at all. Which makes sense. His belief was that you can use your money “to have anything you want–you just can’t have everything.”
So for some of us we’re going to splash cash on makeup at Sephora. Others are naturally inclined to shop at Walmart for Flower Beauty by Drew Barrymore.
The beef that Tori Dunlap has is that women are told to save money and stop spending frivolously. Men are told to invest money and accrue wealth. This fact is evident in the kinds of results that are given when women and men search on this topic on the internet. Different methods are shown for women than the ones for men in the search results.
I check out a lot of personal finance books from the library. First I check to see if a woman wrote the book. In one guide I checked out a woman told women readers to deduct car loan payments on the tax refund when you used your car for a business. Should every women want to be an entrepreneur? How is that advice supposed to help ordinary woman?
The Financial Feminist is the best book of its kind. Even for readers who are shrewd investors or veritable wealth wizards I recommend reading this Tori Dunlap book.
I’ll end here with the best personal finance books I’ve read:
Balance: How to Invest for Happiness, Health, and Wealth. Andrew Hallam, 2022.
Good Money Revolution: How to Make More Money to Do More Good. Derrick Kinney, 2022.
Money Strong: Your Guide to a Life Free of Financial Worries. Liz Davidson2023.
Simple Money: A No-nonsense Guide to Personal Finance. Tim Maurer 2016.
Everything You Know About Money is Wrong: Overcome the Financial Myths Keeping You from the Life You Want. Karen Ramsay, 2001.
Happy Money. The Science of Happier Spending. Elizabeth Dunn & Michael Norton, 2014.
The Next Millionaire Next Door. Thomas J. Stanley & Sarah Stanley Fallaw, 2020.
The Smartest Retirement Book You’ll Ever Read. Daniel R. Solin, 2010.
We Should All Be Millionaires: A Women’s Guide to Earning More, Building Wealth, and Gaining Economic Power. Rachel Rodgers, 2021.
Invest Like You Give a Damn: Make Money, Change the World, Sleep Well at Night. Marc de Sousa Shields, 2017.
Your Essential Guide to Sustainable Investing: How to Live Your Values and Achieve Your Financial Goals with ESG, SRI, and Impact Investing. Larry E. Swedroe 2022.
Again the Republicans in the U.S. government are trying to make this kind of investing illegal. Thus this book might become obsolete if a Republican becomes president.
The Ultimate Retirement Guide for 50+. Suze Orman, 2020.
The only Suze Orman book I recommend. She reduced an adult man to tears in a personal finance DVD where she was giving advice to audience members. She berated him for going to school to get a degree to have a new career. She told him he could’ve done fine in life by remaining a waiter for the rest of his life. What if he wanted to do something else? I was unemployed and had no job when I was back to school to obtain a Masters degree. Suze Orman is against doing this. Take what she says with a grain of salt. In her 50+ retirement guide she appeared to redeem herself with solid advice.
Why Should White Guys Have All the Wealth? How You Can Become a Millionaire Starting from the Bottom. Cedric Nash 2023
Before I form an opinion of a person I read the book they’ve written. I want to decide for myself what I think of them. Instead of relying on hearsay.
It’s time for calling out cowards. “Cancel Culture” is likely not the right avenue to address what’s going on. A person who opens their mouth to speak with hate will cancel themselves right then.
Before I formed an impression of Candace Owens I read her book Blackout.
The Black Conservative pundit wrote in Blackout that it’s okay that police officers shoot and kill Black people as the number of Blacks that cops kill is a tiny fraction of the total number of people killed
What? I didn’t learn that kind of math in a textbook.
The fact that a person of any color would think that it’s okay that a person like Breonna Taylor was killed steams me more than a cappuccino.
On an ordinary day I choose not to talk to anyone about the medical condition I have which is technically a disability. The kind of disorder where if I were agitated and mentally unstable the cops arriving on the scene would shoot me dead.
Realizing that I’m fortunate to have recovered and be doing well I don’t take kindly to Candace Owens writing that it’s okay for cops to kill people. (Read Blackout–I’m not making up or inventing that she believes this is okay.)
Sadly, there are too many people like her that shrug off what cops do and don’t think there’s anything wrong with it.
Individuals with emotional illnesses–of every color–have been and continue to be shot dead when cops arrive on the scene.
The murder of Eric Garner on Bay Street by police officer Daniel Pantaleo upset me the most. Precisely because the DA claimed it was Garner’s medical condition that caused his death. Not the chokehold.
In this way my disability could be used against me in a court of law.
Bills are being sponsored in the House and Senate regarding police reform.
The truth is too painful for me to want to write about what’s gone on right now. I will talk about my take on this in a future blog entry.
Today I will stick with the original topic I wanted to post on how January is Get Organized Month.
At the end of this blog I will link to the Dressing Well(tm) website. Founder and President of Organization by Design, Inc. Mary Lou Andre featured in her latest video there must-have organizing products.
Andre has created an industry out of talking about dressing in clothes.
One tip she gave I paid attention to after having resisted for years–using acrylic storage. On a recent trip to a Burlington Factory Store I bought for $4.99 each two of these bins. One is bigger and has one tray. The other has 3-divided trays.
The one bigger tray holds 3 wool and flannel winter scarves filed front to back like envelopes with their folded-over sides on top. The divided bin stores 3 pairs of winter gloves.
Cheaper acrylic storage than to be found at the Container Store.
The trick I’ve discovered is to set your limit up front to decide the number of items in an accessories category that you can sanely manage the upkeep of.
Using the Marie Kondo method I touched items I haven’t used at all or wore only once. Into the donation bags they were tossed.
I’ve come to realize that I. Am Not. A Scarf Person.
Along with culling my accessories I’m donating in like-new condition houseware items I didn’t use at all either.
The true sanity-saver is to keep on hand only the things you use throughout the year. I’ve seen firsthand that it’s overwhelming to need to pull out or move aside or rearrange the things you don’t use simply to get to the one item you’re reaching for.
The things you store need breathing space around them.
I study and practice feng shui. It’s my conviction that a closet or drawer or cabinet overstuffed with things that haven’t been used in years causes stagnation.
The flow of chi (pronounced chee) is the life energy in your house or apartment. Blocked chi can drain us people living in these spaces of energy too.
I’ve found that by lightening my load of what I keep on hand I feel more energetic too. This is what it’s like when I got to the point where the only clothes in my closet and drawers are the ones I use every week.