Last week Venus WIlliams wrote an article in the New York Times about the 3 factors in obtaining confidence.
When you don’t feel good about yourself and your prospects it can be hard to have confidence.
At 53 I haven’t yet gotten what I wanted. My love and literary prospects haven’t panned out yet. Operative word in the last sentence: yet.
Venus Williams is on to something when she eschewed setting goals in favor of asking yourself: “Do I feel good?” This makes perfect sense to me.
The question “Do I feel good?” is relevant to whether you succeed.
The Dark Horse authors whose book I wrote about in the Flourish blog think achieving success doesn’t lead to happiness–it’s the pursuit of fulfillment that makes you happy.
Again, it’s the process not the outcome that counts.
Which ultimately reinforces my perpetual claim that fashion isn’t frivolous. If you feel good, you’re empowered to take on the world.
In terms of the fashion freedom I hinted at in a recent blog entry I don’t think you can feel good in ill-fitting clothes that aren’t becoming on you.
To know your style and flaunt it guarantees you will be a success in whatever you do.
If you don’t feel good–about what you’re wearing; about the people you’re working with; about an aspect of yourself or your life–you have the power to change this.
This is the truth: you can be happy even when you haven’t achieved the goals you set for yourself. Venus Williams is right and she’s a champion: the goals are irrelevant.
In the coming blog entry I’ll talk about living for today, which is the ultimate method for feeling good.