In extolling fashion and beauty in this blog it’s not my intention to dwell on fluff and not substance.
In my Visionary way I simply wanted to branch out from the typical standard mental health reportage because there’s so much more to life than the pain a person can be in.
If dressing up and wearing makeup is going to make a person feel better I’m all for this. It’s precisely when we’re in pain that we should do what gives us joy.
From my view today I understand what it’s like to be going through “the Change” or menopause.
Our bodies and our looks are evolving. Some of us don’t like that the direction everything’s going in is south.
There are genetic wonders among us who have creamy flawless skin and look good without makeup.
There are other women who simply choose not to wear makeup at all.
I honestly believe that everyone living on earth is beautiful.
I admire women who can rock their natural face and look good without makeup.
I say: to hell with what other people think of you, your body, or your face.
Living in menopause is precisely the time to tell our critics: “I’m hot. Are you blind? Can’t you see I’m hot.”
We need to look in the mirror and like what we see by the time we hit mid-life. If we agonize over our looks or our bodies now it’s only going to be worse when we turn 60 or older.
I’m a 53-year old woman. I don’t feel so hot going out without wearing lipstick. My new favorite tube cost more than I care to admit.
This week I checked out of the library Fresh Lipstick: Redressing Fashion and Feminism.
The book flap inside Fresh Lipstick:
“Argues that wearing high heels and using hair curlers does not deny you the right to seek advancement, empowerment, and equality.”
In here I will argue too that dressing in your own authentic way and taking pride in your beauty can empower you to take risks to achieve other goals you have in life.
It’s a double-edge: looking good to feel good and feeling good to look good.
Let’s face it: post-50 most of us aren’t going to have bodies that are Thin AF.
This is precisely the era in our lives when we should think about remodeling ourselves from the inside.
We benefit from asking ourselves now:
Where do I want to be tomorrow? What can I do today to get closer to that goal?
Is there a habit holding you back? Are there negative thoughts persisting in your head?
Changing what we’re able to and accepting what we can’t change–the Serenity Prayer–is a good solution.
At 40, at 53, at however old you are, this isn’t the time to give up on yourself.
I say: make your own happiness a priority at mid-life. Do what gives you joy.
If that’s swiping on fresh lipstick or putting on your dancing shoes, by all means go for it.